based on a philosophy given at Craghead Spiritualist Church on 13th Feb 2022
With Valentines Day we are drawn to all things to do with romance and relationships, we see Soul Mates as a feature of the folklore around this theme with a Soul Mate being the highest achievement of romantic love.
In reality this is far from the truth. A Soul Mate is a person whose soul vibrates at the same energy level as yours, their Spirit is akin to yours in nature, vibration, expression and depth. Interests are similar, thought patterns echo with the same frequencies and there is a feel of knowing and similarity between you. You are Soul Mates.
A Soul Mate can be a mother, father, partner, sibling, neighbour, friend, a person we sit next to on a bus and feel a sudden deep bond with. You have many Soul Mates in existence at the same time as you on this Earth plane as there are many Souls within each Soul grouping. Any one of their lives may cross your path once, many times or run parallel to yours never meeting but it is in the Spirit world where the true bond and experience of Soul Mates lie, not this Earth plane. This is not so say we should not recognise, greet or befriend your Soul Mate(s), but, putting aside all other romantic relationships so you can belong only to your Soul Mate perverts the journey you are on in this lifetime. You have eternity to be with your Soul Mate(s) why waste your 3 score years and 10 with a Soul you will spend eternity with? This is not to say should life’s journey throw the 2 of you together you should not make the most of it but it worth considering that a Soul Mate is so akin to you the opportunity for learning and spiritual progression can be limited.
It is through conflict, difference, mistakes and the unknown that we learn most about the world and ourselves. See your life on Earth as your Souls Playground. Your opportunity to, as like a child in a playground, to explore, experience, get a few bruises and bumps, make mistakes but most of all enjoy and learn. How better to do this than through the most important relationship you will have on the earth, besides that of your parents and children but that is another chapter altogether.
The relationship you have with your “better ½”, your “love of your life”, your “ball and chain” will change you, stretch you, humble you, anger you, bring you to your knees, raise you to heights of pleasure and happiness you didn’t know possible. It will impact you in ways that you didn’t expect and often will not understand without the help of a very expensive psychiatrist or when you make your transition from this existence to your eternal one and you review your life and your learning. Your relationship will change both of you, whether you want it to or not. You will go into your relationship with hopes and dreams that in reality childish in their naivety, fed from too much Disney and not enough watching our parents, grandparents and other family members in their relationships. The clash between this naïve expectation and the harsh reality of living with someone else’s ego and expectations (and yes they have to cope with yours too) could go a long way to explain divorce rates. Instead, we should rejoice in the opportunity to learn patience, to learn to give way to another’s wants, to find ways to resolve conflict, develop the skill of making up, to know how to start talking again, to forgive, to help sooth anger, to support another when their world falls apart, to stand by when their grief leads them to silence, to be able to wait until they find you again after being lost in their own inner world and the myriad of other experiences a relationship of lovers give. In summary we should gather every experience we can for our soul’s journey through this earthly lifetime, by rejecting these experiences we deny our Soul the experience of learning.
This is not to say we should stay in destructive relationships which cause pain emotionally or physically quite the reverse. Our learning from abusive relationships is about being able to love ourselves enough to leave them, to learn that we can not “save” or “change” anyone but ourselves, to overcome the fear of being alone or to recognise mistakes are learning opportunities and not the old adage “you have made your own bed now lie in it”. Staying in a negative and destructive relationship does not teach us anything as it is just patterns usually learnt in childhood repeating themselves. These patterns take us down emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. Having the strength to leave a relationship that is destructive can be transformative for your Spirit and essential for your physical and mental wellbeing during this lifetime.
Through the Soul’s journey on Earth we learn with every interaction, every relationship of every type. Our Soul finds new expression and new energy and new vibrations which stays eternally part of us. If we learn well we can change our vibration and even change our Soul grouping so at transition we are able to reach higher realms than when we started this earth journey. We can change our Soul Mates through this playground experience so stop looking for romantic perfection, find someone you love with all your heart and enjoy your journey, every bump, lump, tear and smile of it.
Veronica